Gotcha day pictures

I'm just now getting around to downloading and uploading pictures taken from Thursday morning on. What takes seconds to upload at home takes an hour or more here. Frustrating!

Here are pictures from Gotcha Day.

This is the home where Axel has spent the last 2 1/2 years. It is small, about the size of a trailer home, and the inside is neat at tidy. There are *many* mementoes from their lives proudly displayed in ever nook and cranny. The decorations are left over from a wedding that took place..umm...awhile ago I think. I think it is customary to leave them up a certain amount of time for good luck.

This is the oldest son of the foster family, along with his wife. They are VERY attached to Axel, and had a very difficult time saying goodbye to him. She helped Axel get into his new clothes.

This is Axel and his foster father. They share a close bond! Although the father looks imposing in this picture, he is a very gentle, caring man. He didn't hesitate to get on the floor and play with Axel, or bring the 16 month old new foster baby (who also has DS and is a.d.o.r.a.b.l.e!) to the floor for me to see him and Axel to play with him. Axel is going to miss his foster father!

Axel in his "going home" clothes. Oh, how he loved his new clothes. The ones he was drowning in. His father pointed out that they're both wearing plaid now, which Axel thought was pretty cool! Everyone tried hard to keep the mood light and happy for Axel so he would not have any anxiety about going with me.

I did not get pictures of the final goodbyes. Those are memories to keep in my mind and heart, and for his family to keep as well. Besides, it's hard to take pictures when you're sobbing as you take someone's child away forever.

Are you indifferent?

Depraved Indifference. Do you suffer from this?

The Switch That Flipped

Yesterday afternoon (because I'm well into Sunday now!) a switch was flipped in Axel's mind.

I have been showing him signs, forcing him to stop and watch my hands before certain things, like signing "please" if he wanted something I have, or "drink" when he was thirsty, etc. (He learned "drink" very quickly because he's a thirsty boy!) But, although he had learned some signs, and was using them appropriately, it still didn't make sense to him, this business of forcing him to watch.

Until yesterday afternoon.

He wanted to go for a walk, and had managed to get his jacket and all his other outdoor gear together and on, but he needed help with the zipper. I've been using the sign for "help", and he'll imitate it, but it doesn't have meaning for him yet. In the world of ASL we say he doesn't "own" that sign yet.

But then I forced him to watch me sign "zipper" or "zip". He refused to look, I refused to zip. I got my jacket, put it on and signed "zip". He looked down at his jacket, signed zip, and I jumped in with "BRAVO!!!!" and zipped it up.

The rest of the evening he was imitating everything I did, sure that it had meaning. But most importantly, when I make him stop and watch, he understands that what I'm showing him has importance, and meaning, and will get him something, weather that be a zipper done for him, or drink of juice.

Man, I love watching the wheels in his mind turn!

The One Where He Brushes His Teeth

Yesterday I couldn't get into Axel's mouth. He just didn't trust me enough to allow that yet. I didn't really expect him to, but it never hurts to try. I did attempt to brush his teeth but without any success.

I got him a spinny toothbrush. For a child with fine motor delays these are great, because if the child can at least get the toothbrush into the right area, the spinning head does a lot of the work. It's not ideal, but it's better than not brushing at all. (Angela has an Oral B electric toothbrush and it's been great with her braces.)

Tonight he let me in his mouth. Not a lot, but enough to see his bicuspids are broken in half vertically, and he's missing his upper laterals and cuspids. They appear to have either been pulled, or rotted and fallen out themselves. His mouth has to be sore, unless the nerves are completely gone. He doesn't have bad breath though, so who knows.

He let me brush his teeth first, but not knowing how orally defensive he is I didn't turn the toothbrush on. When I was done brushing I let him have a turn, and turned it on. TWENTY MINUTES he sat with that toothbrush in his mouth. He didn't move it around a lot, just a little. Still, I'm impressed. And he was so darned cute I had to record it! I love how he says goodbye at the end. ;-)

Letter to Orphans

Today I found out about one of the institutions Axel spent two or three of his years. It was one of the worst in this country, and has been investigated by MDRI. In August, when he turned 10 years old, he was supposed to go to a similar facility. Instead he is now sitting in a hotel room with me, smelling fresh after a shower, all warm and cozy in new pajamas and tucked into bed. He has a mama who loves him, and a papa and brothers and sister waiting to meet him. It all happened because people chose to stand with us, and help us bear the weight of Axel's cross.

Fellow blogger Traci has a letter to orphans on her blog. I dare you to read it, then sit back and do nothing.

Signs

Today it's raining, so our time outside is very limited. Axel and I are working on lots of new signs. Today I've introduced, "toilet", "orange", "please" and "Mine!" as in "MY glasses" and "MY cell phone and "MY keys!".

I have a video of working on "orange", and our very first informal speech therapy lesson. He doesn't say "mama" he says it more like "baba", so I'm working on the "mmmmmm" sound.

A change in weather would be nice, so we can get back outside. It's 1:00, and today has been MUCH better, but there are still many hours left. Axel is used to going to bed at 10:00 at night, and sleeping 10-12 hours. Yeah, well...time to break THAT habit! This morning I woke him up at 8:30, and will pray that tonight's bedtime was much easier than last night. Whoever designed a room with three light switches within EASY reach of either bed was not considering there would ever be children staying in this hotel, much less one who rivals Stretch Armstrong.

Guess who just signed "toilet" on his own and took himself there? Smart boy!

1st meeting

Here's the video from yesterday morning (ok, it's still "today" for you at home, but I am well into "tomorrow" and should be sleeping!) Anyway, sorry for the bouncing around as I try to get situated, and keep Mr. Busy's hands off the computer. LOL

So this is the first time Dean and Angela get to see Axel "in real life" (aka, not a photo or a previously recorded video! LOL)

Ummm wow!

Axel is busy eating pizza at the moment, so his hands are occupied, and mine are not. ;-) I do have pictures of today, but won't be able to load them until later.

His foster mother was not at the home today, because she had a meeting. But I wonder if it was just going to be too hard for her to say goodbye. The foster father, and their older son (who's in his 20's) was there, along with his wife, and the grandmother.

We weren't there very long before they asked for the clothes I'd brought him to change into. The brother's wife dressed him, all the while trying not to cry. Axel was very proud of his new clothes, though they are big on him! (Dean, go back and get size 6's, the 8's are huge!!!) The shoes are only slightly too big, but wearable for him, and I'm sure he'll grow into them quickly.

All of the adults managed to hold themselves together until it was time to get in the car. Axel was very excited to be going in the car, and was just a happy boy. The adults? Not so much! The older brother and his wife had a very hard time, but they tried their best to say goodbye without loosing control completely. I wish I spoke their language, and could tell them I will take the best care possible of him. The father gave a very quick hug and walked away quickly.

We came to the hotel and unpacked all of his things. Then we played for a bit before he started getting bored, so we, along with the facilitator, took a walk into the city center.

Big mistake.

Or a lesson learned, one of the two!!!

We walked for a few blocks and he was great, and then suddenly his mischeivious side came out. We decided to get him a snack, of which he liked 2 or 3 bites of. We were headed the direction back to the hotel, and the walk back was......well...."difficult" would be an understatement. Kicking, hittin, hair pulling, both at me, the facilitator, and whoever walked by...all done with the biggest grin while he laughed in my face. He was not mad, or angry, or sad, he was TESTING EVERY LIMIT THERE IS TO TEST.

Finally back in the hotel room he was behaving a little bit. We played "straw hockey" (blowing with straws at a cotton ball across a small table. Thanks Abby for the suggestion!) which evolved into a game of catch across the room. That was fun! Before I would throw it to him I had him sign "Axel" (using the name sign I've given him) and I had to sign "Mama" before he would throw it to me.

Somehow this fun game evolved into throwing the pillows at Mama, so those were locked away in the wardrobe. Then it was time to pull out handfuls of Mama's hair, and throw my glasses across the room! When I went to grab his hands he tried to bite. That was the straw! I cannot have them broken only to be stuck here without my eyes!!! (and during this time I was wearing a shirt with some embellishments on it, that are now scattered on the floor because threads got caught on something. I changed to my only other t-shirt which had different embellishments, and they're on the floor now too. LOL I have several sweaters with me, but with the constant wrestling matches I was dripping sweat as it was. The last thing I wanted to put on was a sweater.)

I finally, when my glasses were thrown, I sat him in front of me on the bed, facing away from me with his head on my chest, wrapped my legs over his, and my arms around his chest (holding his arms down so he could not pull hair, glasses, or bite!) He struggled for only a few seconds before calming down and his breathing became relaxed. I slowly let his arms go and started softly playing with the palms of his hands, massaging his palms and fingers. He really liked this!!! Very softly, I sang "Jesus Loves Me" in his ear, and he would lean his head into my if I stopped. He stayed very relaxed for about 15 minutes and I let him go, but he pulled my arms back around him and put his hand back in mine for more of the massaging.

Because he was being very calm, and because it was only about 4:00 and 6 more hours until he's used to going to bed, I decided to try a SHORT walk. Besides, he's learning to do the stairs too! (that's another post, soon to come. Probably after Little Boy Blue is in bed. LOL)

I wanted to keep it VERY short, so I could praise him for being good. We only went about 1 1/2 blocks, then back to the hotel. Lots of "Bravo!!! Bravo!" for good behavior, with a hug and a kiss at the same time. He has been great since then. But, tomorrow is another day, and it's still 4 hours to bedtime.

So far he has learned the signs for "mama", 'drink', 'more', "lights on", "lights off", and "Axel". The sign for "Axel" has no meaning to him yet, but the others DO!!!

On my way!

It's 11:00 a.m. here, and I'm leaving now to go get Axel!

Axel's Dad

Apparently now that I'm out of the country, Dean has found his voice!

It is only midnight there at home, but it's 7:00 a.m here and I have just gotten up for the day. I opened my email to find this link waiting for me. Go check it out!

He never ceases to amaze me.

What we know about Axel

So I was so wrapped up in trying to get pictures posted, that I didn't write anything about our meeting with the Ministry officials yesterday.

This process is very different from Ukraine. Anyone who is adopting from this country, do not look at what the RR Ukraine families are doing and think your process will be anything like that. It's NOT!

The meeting with the Ministry is where you get all the information about the child. In attendance were the psychologist from the Social Services department, Axel's case manager, two social worker from his birth city, my facilitator, a translator and a person to take notes.

First the Ministry psychologist explained the purpose of the meeting, and that she would be asking me a couple of formal questions after were done going over Axel's records. His social worker proceeded to go over every detail, including the names of his birth parents. I don't know if I would have been allowed to take notes, but I wish I would have thought of it!

Axel's parents are married. Axel does have an older brother, and his parents are still married.

Axel was with his birth family until he was 2 years old.  When he was 2 he was transferred to an institution where he remained until he was 4 when he was moved again to yet another facility. When he was 7 he was going to be moved to a different institution, but this was about the time the investigation of Kulina was coming to light. Instead he was sent to a foster home, where he has been ever since. That is a lot of bouncing around for this little boy. Hopefully he can understand that there will be no more moving. We are the last stop for him!!!

His birth parents have arranged to visit him a few times during his stay at the foster home, the most recent being at the time of his 9th birthday, in August 2009. It was at that time they decided to release him for international adoption. There is MUCH information in between, but that is Axel's story, one for he and us to share as he gets older.

Axel is a very healthy boy, and has only had a couple of minor colds over the last 2 1/2 years with his foster family. However, it's evident to me he has blocked tear ducts, at least in his left eye, and possibly the right as well.

His fine motor skills are quite well developed! He has a great pincer grasp, and is able to manipulate very small buttons and switches that I'd hoped he would be oblivious to. ;-) He likes to figure out how things work, and is determined to take things apart!!! (Note to Dean, go out and find that tool bench I was looking for, along with ALL the tools, nuts and bolts, etc. that go with it!!! The more realistic the better. If this boy doesn't have an outlet he's going to take the house apart! LOL)

I haven't gotten a good look at Axel's gross motor skills yet, as we've been confined to the living room at the foster home. But, I have seen that he can balance on one foot, and is able to hop as well. I don't know how often he gets an opportunity to play at a playground, but I do know he plays with the children who live right next door. Won't he just love the playset in our back yard?

Second visit: Harder than the first

This morning my facilitator and I walked around the city center for quite some time. I have no clue why I didn't bring my camera. It's a darling area of town! Many many shops, and an area of "no traffic zone" which is kind of like the Nicollet Mall area for those from the Twin Cities.

When we were done, it was time to go see Axel. I put some different toys in my bag for today, trying to keep things interesting you know! The first toy I brought out was a matchbox motorcycle. Axel and I played with that together with yesterday's cars.

Then his foster mother brought out some pictures from his 9th birthday a year ago. As she did so, I realized just how perfect my gift for them was! They do not have a camera of their own, and the few pictures they have are cherished! The pictures she showed me were the same ones she showed me back in April. There were only a couple of new ones. The gift I got for them was a new digital camera, along with a small tripod, case, and extra memory card. Axel's foster mother was THRILLED! I told her I knew they would want to take pictures of him before he leaves. And, while on our walk earlier I'd spotted a place where they can bring the memory card to have prints made.

Next I brought out the talking photo album. Axel was delighted with it, and his social worker and case manager were intrigued by it! My facilitator, after seeing him play with the iPad yesterday, and this photo album today, said, "You have the most interesting gadgets for him. I love it!"

I saved the toy I somehow knew would be is favorite. I'll be keeping this set aside for moments of desperation in airports, etc! Of course, the toy found in the dollar bin at Walmart is the favorite, right?

He played with this for quite some time. (I'll have to find batteries before we get on that plane! LOL) and showed everyone. In this picture he's sitting with his social workers, and suddenly looked over at his foster mother. I am oblivious, because they're speaking in another language. It wasn't until later I understood the significance of this picture. Someone in the room has just started talking about Axel going home with me.

Still unknown to me what the topic of conversation is, Axel moved to the lap of his foster mother. When I saw her start to tear up, I knew without anyone having to tell me, they were discussing Axel leaving. It is clear that his foster parents care for him very much, and will be sad to let him go.

Just then, I am asked, "Do you think you will be ok with taking him tomorrow?"

Tomorrow! Tomorrow I will take custody of Axel! Just two visits and I am his mother. Yes, I am ready to take him tomorrow, but is his foster mother ready? Is Axel ready? There is a quick conversation about weather or not I need any clothes for him (I have everything he needs, just need to make sure it all fits, but I'm confident I was at least very close in sizing!) I said no, I think I have everything, when is saw the foster mother's face. "Unless he has something, like a favorite shirt? I bet he would like if you send that!" I said.

Please pray for me tonight when you go to bed. While you are dreaming of sugar plums, I will be trying to hold myself together so I do not turn into a puddle of tears! Axel is very sensitive to the emotions of others, and it will not be good for him to see both his foster mother and I crying! Oh Lord, please PLEASE give me more strength than you ever have before!!! I thought adopting was hard, but taking Axel away from the people he clearly loves is going to be the most difficult step!!!

Although I will take custody of Axel tomorrow, there is much to be done. I will still be here in this city until approximately Wednesday or Thursday of next week.

Ok, PICTURES!

For some reason I'm just not able to upload directly to blogger. I can upload to photobucket, one picture at a time though, which is better than nothing!

When I first arrived, Axel was eating his lunch. He seemed to remember me from last spring. He wasn't sure what I was doing with my camera, so this is the first face I got. LOL

When I showed him the picture and he realized this was a CAMERA, well, then lets get to posing, huh?

Do you see the toy phone in his hand? You all know that Angela has her imaginary people, well This is Axel's version! This phone goes with him everywhere, and when there is something he wants to really think about, he does so talking to his phone.

At our meeting with the Ministry officials, they told me he likes cars. I was so glad I'd packed a couple of matchbox cars in my Axel bag. Of course, he wanted me to take a picture of his favorite.

And finally, a short video. He loved this tiny magnadoodle, so I'm sure he'll love the big one I have waiting for him at the hotel. ;-)

When I met Axel in April he was not talking. Just a few sounds here and there. Well, his social worker said that just a few weeks ago, about the same time we made the formal request for him, he started jabbering like crazy! He still only has a few recognizable words, but there is constant babble coming from him, so more words won't be far behind.

the post YOU've been waiting for!

It's midnight here, and I'm exhausted, but now that Dean got to see the pics first, I can show the rest of you! I know you want to see those first and not read my dribble, enough from me already. LOL

When we got there, Axel was just finishing lunch. I had been told at the meeting with the Ministry this morning that he loves cars. I was SO GLAD that I put a couple cars in my Axel bag for today!

Ok...well...my pictures are not uploading through blogger, nor is my video uploading through youtube.

..............................sigh............................

Tuesday Nov 30: long awaited day

Today was a big day. Well, ok it was a big morning. The rest of the day involved a lot of napping and rechecking my internet connection thingy.

One of the COCI members picked me up at 10:30 and drove me to the orphanage so I could meet up with my facilitator and the Breen Family.

My mission was two-fold 1) take updated pictures of kids who are already listed with an adoption organization, along with pictures of new kids and 2) see Ianna!

I arrived right on time, and we went up to the facilitator's office to drop off my bag and jacket. As I was getting my camera ready I took out the list of kids I was to get pictures of, and said, "Of course, I'd like to see Ianna too!"

That is when I got the devastating news that Ianna is no longer there. She has been transferred.

She had been moved just days before.

Go ahead and let that sink in for a minute before I continue.....

I cannot go into any more details than that, but you have to know it was all I could do to hold myself together. I turned away so my facilitator could not see my tears, and the deep breaths I was taking to prevent myself from loosing it. There were other things I needed to do, and other people waiting on me. My tears would have to wait until later, in privacy of my hotel room.

Next we went through the orphanage, a special event for the Breen family since this is where their new son had spent his first several years. They were even able to meet one of the caregivers who had been in charge of him before being sent to a foster home.

There was one little girl who remembered him from 3 years ago. A beautiful little girl, by they way, who will never be available for adoption because her social worker doesn't feel she is adoption material. There are 30+ stories like that. Wanna let that sink in too?

I took all the pictures I was able to take, then went back to my place. I cried for Ianna, then took a nap for a bit until I was woken by the doorbell. It was the landlord bringing me a new modem with minutes on it!

I looked at the clock, did the math, and realized Angela would still be getting ready for school! I could hardly get it in my computer fast enough so I could talk to Dean, and Angela before she left for school! I'm SO GLAD I did that, because the modem had TEN whole minutes of service on it, and THAT'S IT!!! Poor Dean had been left thinking he'd drop Angela off at school then come back for me to tell him the details about Ianna. I was so mad and disappointed when it disconnected. For the next 21 hours I kept checking to make sure it was *really* out of minutes or maybe my computer was just acting up.

So I was stuck in this city with no phone, and no internet, so no way for *anyone* to get in touch with me to let me know where I should be and when. The only thing I DID know was that my appointment with the Ministry officials to start the process for Axel was to be tomorrow at 10:00 a.m.

Arrival continued

Finally I arrived in Axel's country.

Getting off the plane on the other side of the world is a bit surreal feeling. The first thing that I think of is, "I can't believe I am here, and everyone I love is over there, and what I am doing here on the other side of the world?" It really is a strange feeling.

I met at the airport by my new friend Mary Borojevich from Cherish Our Children International. (COCI) I had to give my apartment manager a one hour notice of my arrival, so Mary took me for coffee. When we got the apartment I found out there was no internet access. He had a modem with pre-paid minutes for me, only he 'forgot to put minutes on it'. Hmmmm NOT NICE! Poor Dean! Our facilitator had been worried because she hadn't heard from me, so she emailed the adoption agency, who in turn called Dean, and the group of them were worried together. Mary let me use her phone to call Dean and at least let him know I was alive and had made it to my destination!

From there we headed to dinner at what is said to be the best authentic restaurant in town. It was WONDERFUL, especially since it was now 7:00 pm or so and I was STARVING! LOL

The company at dinner was wonderful as well, and I was able to learn a lot of things about COCI and what they are doing for the children and adults with disabilities in this country. Amazing really, and an organization I'd like to stay involved with. Here's a couple videos to watch about just what COCI is doing!

Next comes Tuesday, a day I've been waiting months for!

Monday November 29th

I'm doing a bit of catch up today, since I've been without internet other than 10 minutes yesterday.

The flight from Chicago to Frankfurt was uneventful. I slept through the take-off, but woke up about 1/2 hr into the air and stayed awake the rest of the 8 hour flight. By the time I got to Frankfurt I was wiped out!

The Frankfurt airport is very large (probably similar to the Minneapolis airport) and I had to get all the way to the other end.....sigh...This is when I wished my carry-on was on rollers.

Now for a little TMI alert, so I can tell you about Frankfurt security.....

In Frankfurt you have to go through security again, which quickly became an issue. Their walk-through metal detector does not like the titanium in my arm, so I got THE pat-down everyone has been talking about!!!! Then the wand was going off on my arm so TWO different people inspected the scar on my wrist! We got up close and personal in the middle of the Frankfurt airport. I didn't have to remove any clothes, and thankfully had not worn a bra or I would have been asked to remove it right there. After feeling me up, and inspecting my wrist to be sure the lovely scar was indeed authentic, I was allowed to pass.

My carry-on was not allowed through.

I am all about new experiences most of the time, and was eager to see what happens in when they find something of interest. Besides, I had a 4 hour lay-over so might as well be entertained by TSA agents, right?

After sending it through the xray machine, they separated my carry on from everyone else's, and made me unpack it. It is a computer backpacked that I had CRAMMED FULL, and weighed about 20 lbs! LOL I pulled every item out, and they ran those items through the xray machine one at a time. Every...single...item. This is when I discovered the talking photo album I bought for Axel and the xray machines are not friend. They sent that photo album through 3 times, then it was picked up by a gloved TSA agent while I repacked my bag and was brought to a room off to the side. One agent stood between me and the door while another swabbed every inch of the album looking for explosives. Cuz I know I fit the profile of a terrorist, me and my talking photo album. I really wanted to ask what kind of explosives that swab sniffer thingy would pick up, but decided I had better keep my mouth shut.

Finally the agent who was guarding me said, "And how are you today?"

I replied, "I'm just GREAT! And how are you?"

"Terrible" he said.

"Oh, well that's not good, the airport is too busy for you to be crabby. What makes your day terrible?"

"It is terrible because a really nice person has come into my inspection room and now must leave because there is nothing wrong here. Have a wonderful rest of your day."

Now I only had 3 1/4 hrs left Frankfurt, Germany. As the time was approaching for my flight the weather became horrid, with snow quickly piling on top of the planes and visibility decreasing. I hoped the flight would not be delayed. We boarded the plane on time and the pilot announced that they were running a little behind because of the heavy de-icing they were doing on all the planes. That's about when I fell asleep.

The next thing I know, I was waking up TWO HOURS later, as the wheels left ground and we became airborne. I fell back to sleep for awhile until my seatmates woke me because the sandwiches (blech) were being delivered. Even though it was gross, I ate it anyway knowing it might be awhile before I ate again.

We arrived in Axel's country about 1 hr 45 min late, but 15 minutes of that was spent parking the plane! Seriously, the pilot didn't know how to park.

No, really.

So he pulls up to the jetway thingy and shuts the plane off. Small problem, he stopped too soon and the jetway could not reach the door. Everyone was told to sit back down so he could restart the engines and pull forward.

Only the engines wouldn't start.

LOVELY!!! To think we just flew across Europe on this plane!

They brought a tractor to pull the plane forward, and that wasn't working. There was a hump in the pavement (felt like a speed bump) and we could feel the plane get to the top of the hump and then roll backward again. Several of us (not gonna tell who started it) volunteered to rhythmically rock in unison to help get the momentum going to get over the hump.

No, REALLY!

I could hear my dad's voice in my ear talking about "Mickey Mouse operations" and stuff like that. LOL Finally after many minutes of the pilot embarrassing himself, we felt the plane give a lurch and roll over the hump. Everyone cheered, the jetway was hooked up, and we were allowed off the plane.

It was just like a low budget movie.

TSA issues? Not here!

The security checkpoint at the MSP airport was nothing. Really! The MSP website had said allow 3 hours for an international flight. Knowing there all those Thanksgiving travelers have to get home Dean dropped me off at the front door at 9:00 for my 12:20 flight.

The line for the checkpoint was VERY long, but it moved relatively quickly. Note to self: I want a different carry on bag. I love my backpack that is checkpoint friendly for my computer, but this trip it's *very* heavy. I want one with rollers. I'm going to look for one in..in...that place I'm going.

My suitcase is HUGE! For those who remember the Bulgaria trip last spring, I had bought two huge duffel bag-type bags, that hold TONS of stuff. We filled them with all our donations for the Bulgarian families last spring. So, I'm all packed in my one bag and my carry on. All my stuff, Axel's clothes, various gifts, a backpack full of "busy stuff" for Axel, etc. The airline weight limit is 50 lbs, and my bag weighted 48.8. I did even better last spring when it weighed 49.8 lbs! LOL

So anyway, back to the security checkpoint. I already knew I didn't want to bother with the scanner, knowing my re-built wrist will set it off anyway, so I was going to vulunteer for the pat-down. HA! No need to! I just had to walk through the same metal detector we've been walking through since 9/11.

From the time Dean dropped me off to until I'd made the loooooong walk to my gate was only 45 minutes.

So here I sit. Do di doooo

What day is it today????

It's GO GET AXEL DAY!!!! Yep, that little counter at the top of the page says today is the day. Sure enough, my airline ticket says exactly the same thing.

This is it. I'm leaving to get Axel today.

There are some very exciting things happening at the beginning of my trip, some of which has the potential to be a HUGE help to those families traveling to Axel's country to adopt in the near future.

Weds is my appointment with the ministry officials in Axel's country, and from there we'll make the drive to the city where he's located.

PLEASE keep the beginning of this trip in your prayers. The whole trip really, but these first couple of days carry an importance of their own.

I'm sure you'll hear from me throughout the day as I galavant to the other side of the world by myself.

Pushing the Envelope

I know a lot of you who are reading have adopted a child with DS. Of those who have, some of you were like us and already had a biological child with DS.

Did you ever have the thoughts of "are we pushing the envelope?" when it comes to DS? We are SO excited to be bringing Axel home, but we can't help but wonder what secrets his body holds.

Angela has had MANY health issues, and numerous major surgeries. (I stopped counting at 23) Most of her stuff was GI related, but she has a couple odd little things that are supposedly unrelated to DS, but of course having the extra chromosome means a slightly increased risk for just about everything under the sun! LOL One of Angela's medical issues, Cricopharyngeal Achalasia, requires us to go to Boston Childrens for treatment. (Ummm...we live in Minnesota!) That is where the only doctor in the nation is who is skilled enough to treat a child with DS with the disorder. Her next step is a major thoracic surgery which we're not ready to pursue at this time.

There are four major conditions that are related to DS that we have manage to avoid. Really, to be honest, sometimes I begin to feel like we are a moving target, zigzagging back and forth to avoid being hit by the next arrow!

Angela was born with a large ASD. We spent 3 years preparing for open heart surgery (In 2000 it became a closed procedure performed in the heart catheterization lab!) We found out that it had closed on it's own just weeks before said surgery.

I, personally, always feared Celiac disease, since I'm a horrid cook and spend a lot of time generally avoiding the kitchen. Fortunately it was another bullet we have (so far) avoided. Angela does carry the gene for it, which means she can develop it at any time, so will continue to be tested for the rest of her life.

Atlantoaxial Instability (AAI), and Atlantooccipital Instability (AOI), while said to be very rare, has been found in several kids who I personally know and have met. (versus those who I only "know" online!) The above link goes to my friend Renee's blog. Her daughter Kennedy had the most severe form of AOI. Angela has had several full-spine MRIs over the course of her life, and her neck has always been fine.

And then there is the one all parents fear, but those of us who have kids with DS, that fear becomes a reality far too often. Kids with DS are more prone to Leukemias (both AML and ALL) than children with only 46 chromosomes. I have watched the children of many friends fight cancer, and too many friends loose their children. While it is rare for a child with DS to be diagnosed for the first time after the age of 4, it does happen. We become hyper-vigilant for the symptoms, and try not to freak out when our children complain of joint pain, or have strange bruises (even when we WATCHED them step off a step wrong three days before. Eh hem!!!! )

So what mysteries DOES Axel's body hold? Is he saving anything special for us? Other than an echo at birth, I don't think he's had any of the usual screenings done on kids with DS. When he comes home I'm thinking of making the rounds to just about every medical specialist there is. Angela has had 16 types of specialists over the years. I waiver between Axel seeing all of them, just to make sure something isn't missed, and just doing a "wait and see" kind of approach. There are positives and negatives to either approach, including financially, logistically, and the "don't invite trouble" type.

I DO know who we're seeing first! These are in no particular order, but are at the very top of the list. Who we see first will depend upon how quickly I can get him in to each one.

1) Orthopedic medine: Axel needs to be checked for AAI/AOI

2) ENT/Audiology: He needs to have his hearing thoroughly tested, and I want him to have a general check up with Angela's ENT.

3) GI (gastroenterology) This one may move down the list a bit based on what I see once he's in my care. He needs to be screened for Celiac Disease, and H-pylori is also common among children adopted from Eastern European countries.

4) Ophthalmology: Axel needs a thorough eye examination by a pediatric eye specialist.

I'm also considering a visit to the International Adoption Clinic with the University of Minnesota. Their tests and assessments are very thorough, and they're used to seeing kids adopted from Eastern European countries. I hear both good and bad opinions about similar clinics around the country. If you've been to the one at the U of M, please comment, I'd love to hear your opinion!

Three more days, and I'm on that plane and all my questions will be answered!!!!!!

Preparing for Axel

The last few weeks have been busy. All the paperwork and running around that is done to bring a child home is exhausting and frustrating. Sometimes it seems as if there is no way you will ever make it to the end. In reality you know there are thousands of families who have gone before you, and they have made it to the end, so you just keep plugging along, getting it done as fast as you can. The faster it's done, the faster your child comes home.

But towards the end of the process, just when you think you are spent, you start to get a little taste of the fun. As the fact that you're adopting becomes more real, and you can almost see the light at the end of the tunnel, you allow yourself small pleasures. Those small pleasures are all about gathering the actual items that you know in just a few weeks your child's hands will be touching.

Painting your child's room is one of those things that will keep you going.

Everyone in the family gets excited and wants to help. They gather where they can keep an eye on the action.

Picking out the paint color and bedding is another step. As you put each sheet on the bed, and lay out the blanket, you picture your new child there, sleeping securely in the room closest to yours. You wonder if he will want you to lay with him those first few nights as he learns the noises of his new home.

Some things you decide to leave until your child is home, knowing it will be one of the first times he'll be allowed to express his opinion, and that his opinion has value.

And of course, buying the clothes he will wear is one very important step; clothes that are like wrapping him with a hug. You touch each item and find yourself praying over each them, that they'll find him healthy and happy each time he puts it on. You pray over his shoes that will walk the streets of his birth country for the very last time. You pray over the winter coat that will protect him from the bitter cold, and hope that you can protect him from some of life's bitterness.

Finally, the day arrives when it is time to pack up the items you've gathered, and try to pack your fears away as well, shifting your focus to the days ahead. In a matter of days, you will travel to the other side of the world for him, to touch him, to hold him again, to see his smile and hear his laughter.

You try to sleep those last few nights. Knowing when you leave your bed on the day of your departure, your life will be forever changed. You stop in his room one last time and say a prayer for the days ahead.

About those flights

So last night I emailed my travel agent, who handles a lot of Reece's Rainbow families, and asked him about going ahead and booking my return flights. That way I'd have that ticket on me and not have to worry about proof that I'm going to leave the country, etc.

By afternoon I still hadn't heard from him and thought...you know...it's possible he's not in today, so I called. He laughed, saying he was hitting "send" just as he picked up the phone to answer my call. (sure enough, the email arrived not 2 seconds later. LOL)

Anyway, earlier this morning he talked to the adoptive parent who had the airport problems yesterday, and assured me NO other families have had such a problem. The issue, it seems, was an overzealous United Airline agent enforcing the wrong rules for the wrong country. I should NOT have such problems.

If I book return flights now and need to change the date later, the change fee for my and Axel's return tickets is $150 each, plus any rate increases.

$300 is a lot of money right now, especially since today we were given a $500 SURPRISE expense added to our adoption! (that's a different post) I'd rather not book those tickets until I know exactly what date we're ready to return.

All that to say I did NOT book the return flights today. Nuf said.

Ruh Roh

So, when I booked my flight for next week, I booked a one-way. Normally families buy round trip tickets, then just pay a penalty to have the return flight date changed, since you book without knowing exactly when you're going to be ready to return.

My agent from Golden Rule said the airline, Lufthansa, has been increasing their change penalties, and it's now to buy a one-way there, then when you know the date you're going to be able to return, purchase another one-way home plus the child's ticket.

But today a parent headed to Ukraine ran into problems at the airport when she wasn't allowed to board the plane without proof that she was only going to stay in Ukraine under 90 days. Not having anything to prove that, she was forced to purchase another ticket, which was exorbitantly priced.

I know several other families are getting ready to travel soon who have also purchased one-way tickets. Is there anyone else who has recently traveled who has run into similar problems? Anyone who is traveling to the same country as me, who has gone on one-way tickets and not had a problem?

Still Blogging Here

Ok, I did not word my previous post correctly, and it has since been edited. THIS blog is not going private. I will continue to blog our adoption journey here.

There are some details about our family I'm not comfortable sharing with people I don't know. But these things are still important to our adoption process. Like all adoptive families, ours is unique, which makes our adoption process unique.

I promise, you're still going to get to follow all of our adoption process here. ALL of you have supported us immensely, both financially, emotionally, and spiritually. We're not going to just leave you in the dust. But please, don't be offended if you're not given access to the private blog. It has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with our comfort level.

Ok? Everybody all good? Take a deep breath in................and exhale.......we're in for the ride of our lives. Let's go!

A little bit of privacy

There are some parts of our lives that are not for the entire world to see, and some details of our adoption that we're not free to openly share on a public forum. This blog, the one you're looking at right now, is not going private. It is staying wide open, and I will be blogging our journey just like I always have! You might even get lucky, and get to hear from Dean again. ;-)

However, I have created a separate, private blog for those times when I want (really for me it's a need) to talk a bit more openly. If you are a close bloggy friend, or IRL (in real life) friend, and are interested in following that private blog, please email me privately at deanleah at comcast.net and I'll add you.

*edited to add* I have received a lot of requests from people who I don't know AT ALL. I know I am always disappointed when people take their blogs private, and I feel like I just got left out of a party. Don't worry, I will STILL be blogging our adoption journey here!

8 more sleeps

Only 8 more sleeps left. (not including naps! LOL)

It has been insanely busy around here. In just eight days (only 8 more days!!!) I will board a plane for Eastern Europe to go get our new son, Axel! Just typing that cause 5 more hairs to fall of my head. Needless to say, there has been much preparation involved, and as my travel date gets closer, plus throwing Thanksgiving into the mix, I'm having a hard time not freaking out. Dean and Angela are thankful that my state of panic has been mostly internal!

The other night I was frantically trying to do SOMETHING about our laundry room. Its a big word...called "O.R.G.A.N.I.Z.A.T.I.O.N". This needs to happen before I leave the country so Dean doesn't have to think about anything. Also, because the last time I came home, I discovered in the three weeks I was gone not one stitch of laundry had been done. Ummm Angela has A LOT of shirts, but she does not have that many pairs of pants! I shudder when I think how many times she wore various pairs, and what was on them! Blech. Well, that can't happen this time, because part of my organizing was making sure all of Angela's laundry was washed and put away, AND I got rid of 2 bags of clothes! She still has lots of shirts (though she pointed out to me there is a noticeable lack of stripes.) but only 4 or 5 pairs of pants, and some of those don't fit just right, or she doesn't like them. (she has just lost a lot of weight, and I'm still trying to find the right size/fit for her new shape.)

Anyway, while I was working on that, Dean and Angela were upstairs doing Dean and Angela things. Angela likes to close herself into the guest bedroom where the closet doors are mirrored. iPod in hand she will stand in front of the mirror to give "concerts". On her way down the hall to that room, she stopped in front of Axel's room. She froze in the door way. "Dean! DEAN! C'mere! You gotta see this!"

Dean went to see what the fuss was about. "Look Dean! Axel's room! There is a bed, and a dresser, and blankets, and pillows, and clothes!" She went to the clothes, which are folded on the bed waiting to be packed for the trip, and picked up a hooded sweatshirt. She held it up in front of her. "Look at Axel's shirt Dean!"

Umm...Axel's room has been done for over a week, and Angela has walked past it every day, but clearly she was just now *really* seeing it for the first time. She looked at Axel's new shoes, and his pj's that she helped pick out several weeks ago. Ignoring Dean, she walked out the door past him and returned with her iPad, and gently closed the door in Dean's face.

Ummm...Angela has a new favorite room.

Awhile later, after Dean told me the story, I poked my head in. She hadn't heard me open the door. There she sat on the floor with the iPad in her lap, watching a Signing Time app .

"Whatcya do'in?" I asked.

"Practicing signs for Axel. When Axel comes home I'm the big sister. My job is help him learn signs. Go away please. I'm busy here."

Oh, life is gonna get interesting around here.

Customs of adoptions

Every country handles adoptions a little differently, and every adoption is different. That's a nice thing, really. It means we all have our own unique adoption stories to tell our children!

One of the customs in the country we're adopting from is that the adoptive family brings gifts to certain people involved in the adoption. This is certainly not required, but is kind of expected. You know, kind of like showing up to a dinner party, you often bring a gift to the host.

There have only been a few children adopted out of foster care from this country, Axel being one of them. We're planning on bringing a gift to his foster parents, and something for his foster sister who I know is going to miss him very much, but I need ideas!!!  Really, I am not very creative in the gift-giving department.

If I remember correctly, the foster sister is 10 or 11. We live right by the Mall of America, so I was thinking of getting her something a tween girl would like from the USA store, but I'm really drawing a blank on the foster parents. Do any of you who have gone before me have any thoughts?

Embassy Confirmed

I've been trying to get in touch with the US Embassy in (Axel's country) for the last couple of days without any luck. It's very frustrating to make an international call, be put on hold by the electronic menu that says they are indeed taking calls that day, only to eventually have a recording come on that says you're not calling during business hours. All while you have the world clock in front of you that says it absolutely IS the correct business hours! GAH!

Anyway, I finally left a message, but figured I wouldn't be able to do anything more until I was in country. Which, HELLO, is in just 10 days!!!!!!

Imagine my surprise this morning when the phone rang, and it was the Embassy calling! Although the guy who handles orphan visas has not received my paperwork, (just one guy, since there are only a few adoptions from this country each year)  he was able to locate my information on the National Visa Center database, and verify the approval. So that, combined with the original document that I'll be carrying with me, he said I'll have no problems. He thanked me for calling ahead, as there have been a few problems recently with all the pieces not getting where they're supposed to since the whole system was switched several weeks ago, and he looks forward to meeting me in a couple of weeks.

There! Done worrying about that!

12 days and a shortage

Some of you may have noticed there is now a chip-in button on my left sidebar. We have come up with most of the funds to bring Axel home, and with your help the iPad give away raised $2700! We are just a few hundred dollars short!

I leave in just 12 days, and I hate to be on my blog begging for money. Our problem comes from the value of the US dollar. The currency exchange calculator on the right sidebar is very helpful, but it only gives the bank rate, and not the consumer rate. So while our Facilitation fee came out to $5500 US, that's what the bank gets it for, not we consumers. Our Facilitation fee ended up costing us $6500, and my lodging will be somewhere around $1500-$2000. The difference will be how may days I'm there, since that's an unknown, and where I stay in Axel's city, since I don't yet know where my facilitator made reservations. (I know the rate in one city, but don't know the other yet.) So between exchange rate issues, and the fact I'm loosing three weeks of income, there comes our shortage.

If my fellow bloggers would help me spread the word, I'd sure appreciate it! God has made sure we've had everything we needed, right down to the penny, exactly when we needed it, and I know He will this time too!

Buttons Buttons, where are the Buttons?

I hear there are a whole bunch of families adopting from same Eastern European country as us who will be traveling this spring. ( It's not Ukraine, nor Russia, Kazakhstan, or Rep. of Georgia. LOL)  We're a small group, with only two agencies that I know of handling adoptions from this country.

Anyway, my sidebars (particularly my left one) are far too bare, and I'd really like to add your buttons! So, if you're reading, and you're adopting from anywhere in Eastern Europe and would like me to add your buttons, let me know! If you're adopting from the same country as me, make sure I know that, because 1) It's fun to follow the blogs of people going to the same place, and working with the same people you're familiar with and 2) I'll create a separate category.

Seriously?

Our mail comes late in the day. Dean and I left for the afternoon/evening, and didn't arrive home until 10:00. Dean pulled the mail out of the box, and what's in it? Our I-171h!!! The document I've been waiting for from USCIS! You know, the one they supposedly didn't mail until yesterday? (The federal holiday when there WAS no mail?)

I'm not complaining! Really, I'm not! I'm thrilled this is here, because now I'm not worried about it. I just don't get how they can say so many different things when clearly NONE of them was accurate. That is just craziness.

But we now all the documents we need are in our hands, or where they're supposed to be. God is SO GOOD!

Putting your trust in USCIS

Let me refresh your memory...

I was told, via email, that my I-171h (that's the document issued by USCIS that states we're approved to bring a child into the US) was put in the mail on November 2nd. This email came from a specific officer within the USCIS department. My adoption agency representative received the same information from a different officer.

At the same time the I-171h is issued to the adoptive parents, a copy is shipped to the National Visa Center (NVC) where it is then uploaded to the sharepoint for overseas access by the US Embassy.

And yet, that document never arrived to my house. I *have* to have that document in order for the US Embassy in Axel's country to issue him a visa to enter the US. If I don't have it, the Embassy 1) gets very upset and snarky 2) They can dig into their system to verify the information, and request information from USCIS in the states. This adds several days to your overseas process. 3) The US Embassy remains snarky because if I had that letter with me they would not have to do this.

So this morning I called USCIS yet again to find out where my document is. This time the person says, "Well, I don't know how that email could have said it was mailed out on the 2nd, because your worker didn't even get your file until the 5th! It may not even be DONE yet!"

You may now insert huge giant anxiety attack here!!!


As I tried to catch my breath, and tried to remember that this person only answers phones and is not responsible for whatever screw ups have happened up to this point, I said in my calm-but-soon-to-be-hysterical-voice, "I know that you're going to somehow find out for me that this is not true, and that it IS completed, because I am traveling in 16 days to complete this adoption with a date that was set based on the fact I was told my application was approved and my I-171h was in... the... mail!" 


I'm pretty sure I could feel her heart racing with mine. She put me on hold while she went to find a supervisor.

She came back a few minutes later. "I now have access to a database I've never had access to before! The officer assigned to your case is not here today, so my supervisor is letting me go into this database to track your file and tell you exactly where everything is. Oh this is fun!"

I was not feeling the fun. Normally, I would have been, but somehow today I was not!

"Ok, the officer received your file on the 5th. Again, it could NOT have gone out on the 2nd because it wasn't even possible. The file was completed on the 10th. The I-171h went in the  mail yesterday (this was pointed out to me later, the 11th was yesterday,  a federal holiday and their office was CLOSED! So how could this be??? Is there a secret we don't know about?) And the documents went out in a box via UPS 2nd day Air to the NVC yesterday. So you should call the NVC on Tuesday to make sure the have them. It will take them a few days to upload them into the database for the US embassy in (Axel's country) to access them. If something happens and they don't have them by Tuesday, you call back here and we'll have to send them again. You should have the I-171h by the end of next week. If you don't have it by Thursday you should call back here so we can get special permission to email or fax you another copy."

So, if some of you are reading who  have been told certain information by the USCIS, I would not necessarily believe what you have been told! I'm not even 100% sure that I want to believe what I was told today, even though Miss Happy on the phone got to read to me directly from a data base she's never had access to before!

The homestudy process? That was a PIECE OF CAKE!!! It's the stuff that comes AFTER that is rough! Maybe because our homestudy was done over almost 2 months time, and the rest of Axel's adoption has been done in a matter of a few very short weeks. We formally submitted for  him just 33 days ago, and it seems like I haven't stopped running since! I can't wait until we get him home and can catch our breath.

Something tells me we won't be sitting still for long. LOL

Where IS it???

On November 2nd, my adoption agency rep. emailed USCIS to find out if my approval was completed yet. On the 3rd she received a reply that my I-171h was mailed the day before. On the 4th I also received an email stating that I should be receiving it in the mail shortly.

Today is the 11th, and I still don't HAVE IT!!!! This is a serious problem.

And, of course, today is a federal holiday, so USCIS is closed. I will call first thing tomorrow morning, but there are only 8, count them EIGHT business days left after that for this to get straightened out before I leave.

No stress...no...no stress AT ALL!

The Euro is Down Today

Those who are traveling soon, do you watch the exchange rates like I do? Tonight the Euro is down, which means today would have been the day to exchange US dollars for Euros. It's a daily game here now, watching the Euro, and there are several people here who read that are traveling to other countries, so I added a Currency converter gadget on my right sidebar. :-)

And the Winner Is.......

Wow, when we got the final list of contributors from Reece's Rainbow, we were amazed to not only see all the names, but WHERE all the names were from! There were people from Ireland and even South Africa. Thank you again, everyone, for helping us bring Axel home!

And now, enough babble! I know you just want to see Angela pick the winning name! (Angela wasn't quite awake yet when we did this, can you tell? LOL)

Flight is booked!

It's official! 20 days from now I will board a plane, and will arrive in the capital city of Axel's country on November 29th! Here I come buddy!

The Children He Didn't Want to See

Three years ago, I started following the families who were adopting children found through an adoption organization. I would read certain passages of their family blogs to Dean, sometimes having to stop because I was too choked up to say the words out loud. Sometimes he would ask me, "Why do you read those blogs? Why do you torture yourself with all that sad stuff? Really, I don't want to hear about it." Other times he would respond with a simple, totally unemotional, "Yep, that's sad." and walk away.

Dean didn't want to hear about these children. He didn't want to know about suffering, and transfers, and what some do-gooder who I was reading about online was doing. Besides, how do I know it's not all just some scam anyway? I'd never met any of these people!

This morning Dean and I were up early. We had a houseful of people coming over for Potato Klub, and were enjoying the early morning quiet checking our email accounts, etc. Yesterday Dean had finished painting Axel's bedroom, so I was getting ready to shampoo the carpet.

As we sat together in the quiet Dean said, "Wow, there's a lot of families traveling right now." He was on the Reece's Rainbow "Traveling Now" page, which lists all the families who are currently traveling to pick up their new children. Soon he'd navigated his way to the blogs of a couple different families, and smiled as he looked at the pictures of the first time they saw their child. He turned his computer toward me so I could watch a couple videos, one of a little boy getting to know his new mama, and producing one of his first signs.

"There are so man beautiful kids here." he said. I looked to see what page he was on. Ahhh yes. The girls ages 6+. They are the most "at risk" children. The are the children most in danger of getting transferred.  "If only we could bring them all home." he said.

And I know exactly what he means. There is no way one family can save the 147 million orphans in the world. But I sat there, in awe of what God had done in our household in the past year! He had completely changed Dean's heart from one that is cold and closed to hearing the cry of the orphan, to one that will fight for them. Every day I hear him tell someone, "We're adopting a child. A child who would otherwise have a very different life!" as he goes on to tell the story of Axel and Ianna.

Somewhere along the way God showed Dean that these two empty bedrooms in our house were meant to be filled with the sweet sounds of sleeping children. That the two empty seats at our dining room table were meant to have the smiling faces of two more children. That our hearts were more than capable of loving two more.

Today, on Orphan Sunday, I praise God for the miracles He has chosen for our family this year, and I'm excited for all that lies ahead. I know that it won't be easy, but that we're up for the challenge we've been commissioned to face.

What can YOU do for the orphans of our world? Perhaps one of the 200 faces of the waiting children on Reece's Rainbow is speaking to you? Maybe you'd rather support a family who is trying to raise the funds to bring their child home? There are so many ways that you can help through Reece's Rainbow, there really is an option for everyone!

To those who have lovingly contributed to our adoption fund, we thank you, from the bottom of our hearts, for your love. You have made a HUGE difference in Axel's future!

Sharing the Reality

Over the last few months I've introduced you to my friend Julia, and her son Aaron who they recently brought home from Eastern Europe. For awhile Aaron's button was on my sidebar, until he came home and I was happily able to take it down.

Julia's heart is burdened, and I share that burden with her in other parts of Eastern Europe, as most of us involved in Reece's Rainbow do. Some of us have have been exposed to different sights and sounds, all connected by one common thread; Children who are waiting for someone to come get them, Facility directors who are using a small budget and to do as much as possible, caretakers who are caring for multitudes of children with too few hands. All of them are working against societal norms that have taught them these children, the ones with Down syndrome, CP, or other disabilities, have no value. They are doing their best...and we want to help.

Please go read Julia's post, since she speaks it so much more eloquently than I!

LAST CHANGE FOR iPAD GIVE AWAY!

The iPad Give away ends tomorrow at midnight!!! We have been blessed by a little over $2,000 received so far! WOW!!!

You have until tomorrow at midnight to enter. 

Apple® - iPad™ with Wi-Fi - 16GB

How to enter: $25 per entry, and of course you can enter as many times as you like! But, as an added bonus, any donation of $100 will give you FIVE entries!!! All donations are 100% tax deductible to Reece's Rainbow, which is a 501c3 non profit organization. 

Give away ends November 7th, and the winner will be announced November 9th. Please help us get Axel home by posting this on your facebook pages and blogs, and help us get Axel home! 

Remember $25 per entry, or $100 for 5 entries. Just click below to get to Axel's donation page. When you get there, click the "donate" button. Ready?????

  Give away is now closed, but if you'd still like to donate to help us get Axel home, every dollar helps!  

I Have A Date!

I have a date for an official meeting with the Ministry Officials in Axel's country on December 1st, 2010!

WOOT WOOT!

Now, I'm off to book some airline tickets!

*Because of the dates involved, it has been decided that I will be traveling alone. GULP

An Answer to Prayer

A couple days ago I posted about my school dilemma, and that was expected to show up to classes on January 7th. This development caused me more anxiety this week than you can even imagine! Not only financial, but logistical and...well...it was just a lot more to think about!

And then I remembered that give it over to God thing. You know that part? Sometimes when I'm freaking out I forget that part! As our travel gets closer and closer I become less able to think. So when I turned it over, you know, it got taken care of!

This morning I was supposed to call my admissions counselor back and tell him what I was going to do. I said, "I guess I'll be registering for classes." and then on a whim I said, "Unless you have someone who has been accepted for Fall 2011 who would rather start this January? I know that's short notice for them, but I guess it can't hurt to throw that out there."

"Well, funny you should ask that." he said, "Someone just called me yesterday to see if anyone had by chance backed out. Knowing you'd rather start next fall, I checked with administration to see if they'd be ok letting the two of you change seats. They said given the circumstances they'd make an exception."

So, I am officially no longer worried about school! WHOO HOO!!! In the fall of 2011, when my kids are ready to start school, so too will I be ready to go back!

Another Earthquake

There was another earthquake in the same area Thursday night their time (they're 7 hours ahead of us) This one listed as 4.3 on the Richter scale. It is listed as a quake, not an aftershock. (I suppose it's a difference in strength?)

To say we are nervous is an understatement.

By the way...

The Ministry Officials have agreed to have us come the first week of December! In other words, that was our 100% last stamp of approval! We're just waiting for a specific DATE so we can book our flights. Hopefully we'll have it soon so we can get decent rates since we'll be flying when everyone else is flying home after the big Thanksgiving weekend!

Earthquake Update

Due to privacy issues I am not suppose to give information about where we're going until after Axel is officially ours, and yes, my blog is checked up on. Later, if I want, I can come back and edit, but for now it needs to stay this way, and can most certainly cannot be keyword searchable, so please accept my apologies for my cryptic posts. That said, it's obvious from the urgency of my post last night that the earthquake was VERY close to where Axel is located!

I received an email from our facilitator this morning. She is fine, but is in a different city approximately 75-80 miles away from where the quake happened. It was felt there, and they were a bit scared for a few minutes. There is another Reece's Rainbow family who I think is now on their way home. As far as I know our facilitator has not yet gotten word from Axel's social worker nor the foster family, however news reports are not saying anything about damage or injuries in Axel's specific town, so we are assuming he is fine.

Here is a link to some very specific information about the Earthquake, including distances from various cities. You'll see one city listed that is just 25 miles away. Please pray for that city!!!!!

Three hours after this quake, there was another almost as strong in Turkey. Also, Sofia, the capital city of Bulgaria is just to the south and sits on the same fault line. It too is danger as shifting in the area continues. We have several Reece's Rainbow families due to travel to Bulgaria very soon, and all must come and go through Sofia.

When we travel in a few weeks we will be spending some time in Axel's city. I'm not sure how many days, as it depends on several things. Needless to say, Dean and I are both very nervous about this. Dean  is not the most adventurous person and has volunteered himself to stay home with Angela! I told him no...he's going along. We're not going to let some little 'ole earthquake make him miss a once in a lifetime opportunity. Meeting Axel in his home country can only happen once. There are no do-overs.

Please pray for Axel, and his safety and well being. I'm sure he is confused right now as there is discussion happening around him of what is to come next month. Please pray for his foster family, that they can find the words to explain this to him. That they can do so with love. Please pray for their hearts as well as they prepare to say goodbye to the boy they've cared for the past 2 1/2 years. Please pray for their grandaughter, Axel's foster sister. I know she adores Axel, and I'm sure these conversations are distressing for her. Please pray for Axel's social worker as she prepares all the necessary papers! I know she does her best to make this an efficient and quick process. She has worked hard to keep Axel where he is currently, and to advocate for him to find a family. Please pray for our facilitator, who must play the middle person between MANY people involved! She makes all the arrangements and does an amazing job. Not to mention, she also has all the children in the care center to take care of! She wears many hats, and she wears them well.

Lastly,  Please pray for us, that we can have a sense of peace as we get ready to travel to the other side of the world to bring Axel home. I am extremely stressed right now as I think about all the things that need to get done before we leave, and all that must get done as soon as we get Axel home. I know every adoptive family goes through these same feelings. They are new to me, and they're overwhelming. Dean worries about the money side of things, because that's the part I gave him. I did all the paper parts!

URGENT! PLEASE PRAY!!!!!

We have reason to be EXTREMELY WORRIED about this earthquake, along with all of it's aftershocks!!!!!!!!!  I mean...EXTREMELY WORRIED!!

http://www.cnn.com/2010/WORLD/europe/11/03/serbia.earthquake/index.html?hpt=Sbin

Some of you may remember that in April, my friend Shelley and I were trapped in Bulgaria for a week due to the Icelandic volcano that closed European airspace. That was *bothersome* compared to our level of worry. It was INSIGNIFICANT compared to our level of worry right now.

The words "FAR TOO CLOSE" for comfort would be an understatement.

Please pray!!

USCIS Approval!

Our Adoption agency emailed USCIS yesterday, and today recieved a reply stating that our approval was mailed yesterday! WOOT WOOT!!!! That is the LAST step on our end. THE VERY LAST STEP!!!!

Persistent

"Persistent

Definition: Persisting, especially in spite of opposition, obstacles, discouragement, etc.
Lasting or enduring tenaciously."

One reader emailed me today and asked what the status is with Ianna. I figured if one person asked, there are probably more wondering.

Basically, there is nothing to report about Ianna, other than to say we have not given up on her, nor have we stopped praying for her! Until all doors to the possibility of her adoption have closed and the keys thrown away forever, we will continue to be persistent.

We know there are people in Ianna's country who care for her, and want nothing but the best for her. It is hard for them to stand against the system that has a long history of only doing things a certain way. They have already saved her once from a horrible place, and I know they don't want to see her moved to such a place again. They are doing all they can to help Ianna find her way to a forever family instead of a transfer to a long-term care facility.

Please pray for the system there. They're trying to change, but change takes time, something Ianna is quickly running out short on.

USCIS update

Ok problem with USCIS figured out!

We were given a fingerprint appointment for November 17th, but where we live we're able to take our notice to the immigration office and have our appointment changed. It just so happens that they sometimes take you for they very time you show up to ask about changing it. ;-) So our fingerprints were done on October 26th.

However, the officer assigned to our case doesn't look to complete your file until two days after your ASSIGNED finger print appointment. She didn't know we were already done! Hopefully in the next few days our approval will be issued! Friday I'll call just to make sure.

Sometimes all these steps in the process make me nervous, especially when there is a timeline involved. Our agency is emailing Immigration as well to let them know we have a travel date pending, and that they are the only piece left to complete.

I did get an email today from our facilitator in Axel's country verifying that we wanted to arrive first week of December, which we do.  They are still working on calendars and final approvals on their end. We have all of our dog and kid caregivers in place and ready, we just need to tell them what day to be here.

USCIS question

For those who have previously adopted, here's a question:

Yesterday I called to check the status of our I-171, and was given the name of the officer our file was assigned to. I left a message.

Ever the patient person that I am (not) I called back today to just see if whoever answered would just tell me if the approval and been issued yet. This time I was told it had not left the Officer's desk yet, however i was given a DIFFERENT officer's name.

Any reason why the file would have a different officer today than it had yesterday?

Also, how long are your approvals usually taking from the day of your fingerprinting? It seems, from most the blogs I'm reading, anywhere from a week to three weeks for new files under the new system, and the old wait of weeks and weeks and weeks is getting less common.  We had our fingerprints done on Tuesday, October 26th.

The Power of 40

There is less than one week left of our iPad give away. For those who have not been watching Axel's donation page, $1,830 has been raised so far! We are SO thankful to all of you who have contributed! I am just in awe!

We had intentionally NOT listed our fundraising goal. If felt like God would meet our needs like he has all along this process. But there is a funny thing about goal setting. If nobody knows what your goals are but you, then you have NO support to help reach your goal! So yesterday I received an email from one of my new readers. He said, "I think it is important to share your story and to be willing to ask for help.I know this is not in your nature but it is also part of what you are here to learn."

And so, I'm going to tell you. Our goal for this fundraiser was $5,000. So we need a little more than $3,000 to reach our goal.

The power of 40.

If 40 people feel led to contribute, and each of them can get two more people, that is $3,000!!

Are you one of those 40?

Apple® - iPad™ with Wi-Fi - 16GB

How to enter: $25 per entry, and of course you can enter as many times as you like! But, as an added bonus, any donation of $100 will give you FIVE entries!!! All donations are 100% tax deductible to Reece's Rainbow, which is a 501c3 non profit organization.

Give away ends November 7th, and the winner will be announced November 9th. Please help us get Axel home  by posting this on your facebook pages and blogs! Spreading the word is key! Remember the power of 40!

Remember $25 per entry, just click below to get to Axel's donation page. Ready????? When you get there, click the "Donate" button.

 CLICK HERE  TO ENTER 

Dilemma of the Day

I haven't had a dilemma all week, so it's about time, right?

Those who are new here, let me get you up to speed.....

A year ago in September I went back to school full time, to get my degree in Diagnostic Medical Sonography. (aka Ultrasound Tech) This is a highly competitive field, and the program is extremely difficult to get into. I ended up  having to enroll in a different program (BA Psychology) in order to get all my generals done over the last year, then was put on the waiting list for the actual Sonography program.

And, VIOLA! I got a seat in Fall of 2011's program. PERFECT! I'd take this year off, get two adoptions completed, get everyone settled and into school next fall at the same time that I go back to school. PIECE OF CAKE, right?

Well, to all you newbies, you probably also don't yet know that I don't do ANYTHING the easy way! Oh, I have it all planned out in my head the right way, but that guy upstairs? Yeah, He keeps trying to teach me these lessons about "control" and stuff like that.

So in July or so I get a call that my name came up for Spring semester, which starts January 7th. Well...what if I don't want that seat? I didn't SAY that, but I wanted to. I knew the answer was going to be, "If you don't want it, why did you enroll when we only take 20 people a year, and there are 120 people who applied????"

Well, because I didn't know we were ADOPTING, that's why! Because **GOD** didn't include me on the email to the universe that said,

"Memo: On April 7th, 2010, I'll be performing an atomic shift in the atmosphere, which will cause the stars to change their alignment. When this happens, that man......the one living in that house located at (insert our address) will read the blog post written by his wife, and will cry. At that precise moment, a decision will be made which will change the course of their lives forever."

Yeah, that email. I didn't get that one.

So anyway, in July the admissions counselor called to tell me the WONDERFUL news, that I was accepted for January. She could hardly contain herself. I, on the other hand, was in tears on my end of the phone. When I told her my dilemma, that we were waiting to find out news on IANNA'S adoption, and it's possible we would be traveling, she said "Well, you took all your generals. You'd only need to take 2 classes, which are both offered at night."

Ok, that's do able. Only problem is it's only 6 credits so not covered by financial aid. I'd have to come up with about $2000 out of pocket to pay for those two classes. Lovely. BUT, she said I could, at the last minute, defer my seat to fall 2011 semester and allow another student to take the seat. I'd still need to accept the spring seat at the moment, and defer later on. So I planned on doing that. Like the middle of October.

Fast forward to today. Today is November 1st, isn't it?

School called, and it was my admissions counselor. With all that has blown up with Axel's adoption, I have completely forgotten about school. Totally and completely forgotten. My counselor asked me, "I'm calling because you haven't registered for classes yet. Registration closes on the 11th."

UH OH. CRAP!

I explained to him that I was going to defer to Fall 2011 semester. That I'm going to be bringing a child home, it's possible I won't be home in time for the January 7th start date (Lord, Please let me be home by then! I should be home by then!!!!) but we're also hoping to have another adoption happening in the spring, and I can't miss three weeks of class. It would be better to defer to next fall.

"Not even possible" he said. All those seats are full.

UH OH

Ok. Umm.

Well, I'm hoping to have a travel date by Weds at the latest. (was actually hoping to have it today, but got an email this morning saying a couple more days.) so he said to call him back on Thursday morning, in the meantime he's going to call the other admissions counselor to find out what she told me. He was NOT happy with me, really.

And do I ever feel like an irresponsible heel. I haven't checked my school email since July, and there were two informational events I should have attended in October. I read over the program handbook today and I have about $1000 to spend on supplies. OUCH!

Thankfully, if I do have to start in January, I do only have 2 classes to take, and yes, they're both evening classes when Dean is home. Umm, one of those classes is PHYSICS. Blech! But starting in May????? I AM IN TROUBLE! Wow...14 credits during Summer semester, and most of those classes are during the day. You know, when the kids are home? Lovely! 12 credits the next, semester, but the kids will be back in school. For each credit it's at least 3 hours of homework.

Needless to say, once I got that phone call today, my stomach has been in knots not because of the adoption, but because of school anxiety!!!

I'm thinking this needs prayer. Really, prayer that it works for me to defer to fall of 2011. There is no way we can bring Ianna home if I'm in school this spring. I just don't see how it could work unless they let me choose my travel dates and I can work it in over my spring break and only miss one week of school, then I'd only miss one day of each class. Still, that would be awfully risky. I did that last spring and ended up getting stuck in Bulgaria because of the Icelandic volcano and had some NOT very happy professors!!! It ended up causing my school to totally revamp their absentee policy for finals week since that stupid volcano made me miss finals!

So, that's my dilemma of the day!

Loosing hope

Dare you to watch it.


Hope is Fading – Orphan Sunday from Allan Rosenow on Vimeo.